Is your abuse radar off? Learn to recognize narcissistic coercive control

Have you ever felt like your abuse radar is offer? Let's explore a typical scenaro of narcissistic coercive control... 

Do you have those people in your life where you could say that the house was on fire, and they would tell you it's just a light that's been left on?

During so much of my life I experienced this (pre badassery of course).

It taught me to question my sanity, my ‘sensitivity’ and to feel like I had zero rights to my needs, and of course - zero boundaries.

It is exhausting to talk to people who operate this way, especially when this is a persistent and regular interaction.

Learn to recognize narcissistic coercive control

It is also a signal that should set your abuse foreshadowing radar off.

They don’t take what you say seriously… try and make it smaller, less important.

Denying and minimizing your experience is a common entry level abuse tactic, and a form of verbal abuse. Add gaslighting to the list ; trying to make you question your perception or sanity of what your experience is.

If you notice this to be a pattern of interactions with someone in your life - PAY ATTENTION.

Listen for DARVO also (Deny Attack, Reverse, Victim and Offender), where you will be attacked (and they will deny) an action or words you have brought to their attention as harmful.

Eventually, you tend to internally shut down. You do not mention your experiences or any resistance to poor treatment. You certainly stop trying to hold them accountable, you feel it is futile. THIS IS WHAT THEY WANT. They are looking to see how far they can push you and break down your resistance. This is how coercive control works.

Yes, it is extreme emotional immaturity - but it is also often a signal of more serious forms of abuse to come.

What should be your next steps?

If you have trouble identifying abuse dynamics, and covert manipulation tactics - and long to be a honed and sharp weapon of awareness then let’s talk.

Either book a free call with me and let’s strategize - or explore the option to enroll in my Badass Boundaries course.